An expert in early childhood development, Deanne Carson, sparked controversy after suggesting parents ask babies for permission before changing their diapers. She clarified that this isn’t about waiting for a verbal yes, but about modeling respectful communication from the start by saying things like, “I’m going to change your diaper now, is that OK?” and pausing briefly to engage with the baby’s body language.

Carson explained that these small interactions help children learn that their responses matter, even if they can’t speak yet. Some critics questioned the practicality of this, worrying it could delay necessary care or confuse parents about how to respond if a baby seemed to “refuse.”

Despite the backlash, many experts supported Carson’s intent. They agreed that talking to children during care routines teaches them early on that their bodies and boundaries should be respected. It’s not about asking permission to do necessary things but about how those things are done—with empathy and clarity.

In a follow-up statement, Carson emphasized that her advice was about building a culture of consent, not requiring literal permission from babies. These early habits, she said, can lay the foundation for healthier communication and self-respect as children grow.

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